Back in January, whilst writing down all the usual New Year Resolutions (lose weight, turn veggie, save more, spend less… you get the gist), I wrote down one which was to explore more – and by exploration, I am referring to BDSM.
My journey into BDSM is one that started at 100 miles an hour and then suddenly came to a halt and stayed for longer than intended. I wanted to overcome that dry spell whilst pushing my boundaries; not only as a switch, but also as a sensual being. I wanted to deal with a lot of the negative thoughts and ideas I associated with sex and sensuality (and my body), whilst exploring areas of BDSM I was intrigued by. With all this in mind, I have spent the first half of 2019 venturing into all sorts of different events/play with the help and guidance of my OH, who has been an amazing teacher, buddy and support system. Some of it has been and still is a challenge, but I would be lying if I said that the majority of it hasn’t been fun, because it has been. It has also made us stronger and closer, and it has allowed me to also build lasting relationships with others I care about.
So with all of that being said, I present to you this new series where I will discuss in depth my thoughts and feelings about my kinks. I will not be discussing the technical skills required because there are plenty of better qualified people than me out there that can do a better job – I am simply going to delve into the depths of my brain and soul and let you come with me for the ride.
I won’t lie to you, this is a scary step for me take, as I am fiercely private, and I may well decide against this idea and delete it all at a later stage, but for now this idea is speaking to me and I can only do/write about things that speak to me. I know for many people fetishes are all about sensation, and it only goes skin deep – but for a lot of us, fetishes are not just a ‘fun’ way to spend time with people. BDSM can release negative emotions and stress, it can also provide structure and boundaries for those who need it as well as helping build lasting relationships. For me, BDSM isn’t just a thing I do at events to make myself look ‘cool’ – it is a part of my life that caters to that part in my brain that seeks a deeper emotional connection with another individual and with myself.
So, for the next 4 to 5 weeks I will be letting you all into my fetishes. As I said before, these will be very personal, so I will not tolerate any type of hate or thoughtless comments in my blog. If you want to have a conversation about any of the upcoming topics, please email me and I will be more than happy to have constructive conversations. After all, we are all constantly learning, are we not?