First of all of you may have noticed that I’ve been gone for 3 months, and the reason behind it is that quite frankly, I wasn’t feeling my blog anymore. It wasn’t giving me any joy and it started feeling more like a chore rather than a hobby. So I simply decided to step back and take a break. This little corner of mine is something I really appreciate and to be honest it does deserve a lot more love than it currently receives so I hope this new year will bring me the dedication it needs! Thank you to the 200 subscribers who still read my little posts on life and everything else, I appreciate you.
So, to round off this year, I thought what best but discuss the lessons this year has taught me. I hope these resonate with you.
- The need to be true to yourself
I like to think that I am one of those people who is able to defend herself and put herself first when needed but even for ‘strong personalities’, life can take its toll. The summer was particularly a difficult time for me but in a way it was such a release to hit rock bottom because it forces you to look at the situation you are in and deal with the issues you have. when you hit rock bottom you can either climb up or stay down. So I decided to climb.
Life is so fast-paced that we often forget to check with ourselves and ensuring we are actually doing okay. It is important to have goals but to also let ourselves be human and make mistakes. Sometimes we may disappoint some people, something we get things wrong and make mistakes. It is all part of the process of being human. It is okay to let go and let thing run it course.
There is a infamous episode of The Bing Bang Theory where after Amy watched Indiana Jones (Raiders of the Lost Ark), she went on to pinpoint a major fault in the movie:
“Indiana Jones plays no role in the outcome of the story. If he weren’t in the film, it would turn out exactly the same… If he weren’t in the movie, the Nazis would still have found the Ark, taken it to the island, opened it up, and all died, just like they did.”
And this is my new motto in life. It may be a tad dramatic but it does hold true. We are insignificant atoms in this vast universe we call home and our life is so limited and brief that really that email you accidentally clicked ‘Reply All’ is not the end of the world (really, it is going to be okay)
2. We need to be kinder
If 2016 only taught me one thing, is that there is a lot of hate out there at the moment. We live in a world where disparities keep widening and the rise of social media has facilitated the spread of not only good vibes but also hate and negativity. I am a big believer that it is the smaller gestures in our daily lives that make the biggest difference. Smile to a stranger, listen to someone who needs to vent, call your Mum, just do small things which in turn will make you feel better. Being kinder is also about respecting others. In a year where we have seen politics turn into a freak show and witness how widespread racism truly is, we need to understand that our views are not the only views in this world and that we can live in harmony while having different views. At the end of the day, as long as we do not harm one another, the rest can be fixed.
3. Maintain friendships
This year for me was the year of friendships. I have always been a bit of a loner and have a very limited amount of friends, but this year I was able to really see and appreciate the small family I have built over the years. And the truth is, friendships can run deeper than family ties and it is all down to you and the effort you put into these friendships. I am a firm believer of surrounding yourself with people who have drive, ambition and quite frankly, are smarter than you. They can uplift you, inspire you and teach you a thing or two. Let’s raise a glass of champs (or tea in my case!) to those people who we are lucky to call friends!
I hope 2016 was good for you, and if it wasn’t, don’t worry, we have 2017 just around the corner. I wish everyone a very Happy New Year!